“To be a Christian without prayer is no more possible than to be alive without breathing.” – Martin Luther King, Jr
Amidst times of trials and troubles we have an ability to find refuge in the Father. This is the safe haven we see Christ seeking though out his ministry on earth. It is pivotal to understand Christ’s retreat to be close to the heart of the Father. His trips to the mountaintop, his blood soaked prayers in the Garden of Gethsemane, His retreat with the disciples on the boat: Christ was a man of prayer. When the ability to draw near to the heart of the Father came for restoration and direction, he ardently sought it. He was attacked, undermined, betrayed, denied and ostracized; in response he sought the solitude and the solace of the Father. He needed to be near to the Father to know his heart. Where there was trust: Where he was loved. Where he was aware of whom he was in light of circumstances. What an incredible context to know one’s self and the peace of purpose which exists within one’s life in light of the Father and his mission to the world. It illuminates direction, sacrifice, duty and the paths to where God will next use you to gather people unto Himself. As Brennan Manning once wrote, “One cannot think of the number of wrong jobs, wrong personal relationships, and all the subsequent suffering that would be avoided if Christians submitted their decision making process to the Lordship of Jesus Christ and shared in his intimate trust in God’s direction.” Truly we have an advocate to help us in our hours of need: One who gives direction and peace.
He has shown us in his son’s devotion to drawing near the Father in prayer, his desire for community with his own. We are his children and he desires our hearts near to his. The more attuned to his purpose that we are, the more we long to retreat to his presence for restoration. The place of his nearness can overcome our moment of disarray. The time of our hearts quiet meditation of Him is an exercise in knowing the Almighty. When we rest in his presence, we absorb the ideas of his Spirit and the intentions of his heart. Stillness before the Almighty yields rewards which the tangible cannot diminish. Despite our circumstances, we rely on this connection to the Father. This place of indwelling is our source of strength. It is not in our ability to pontificate miraculous things about God, or realize the self and the myriad of duties and directions we are being pulled, or the ministries we participate in, or our ability to contemplate higher truth in the ever transcendent Father: It is our ability to define ourselves in him and internalize through prayer the source of joy and strength we have in being his. We restore our strength in acknowledging the bond to the God of the universe who knows the hairs on our head. Sharing in his peace and glory is a place which transforms our daily lives, and calls us home to his presence in prayer.
As the days race by, and the demands pummel our state of mind, when we find ourselves stretched thin in the places of our lives; emulate Christ and seek the Father. Seek Him in prayer. Contemplatively sit in his acceptance. Acknowledge his worthiness of trust and pursuit in our lives. Embrace the love He has for you personally: Let it envelop you. Allow the waters of communion with him to wash over your head. Let your cup overflow with the blessings of being still and knowing not only that He is God; but He is intensely in love with you. He is longing for you to know his peace, his transcendence and his purpose.
I believe God has put you in his life for 2 reanoss.1. God wants you to break upIf your reason for breaking up with your boyfriend is sincerely because he lacks the faith in God and the Christ-like leadership as a potential husband, a breakup should send him to God’s arms. If it doesn’t he’s not the man you need to be with anyways. If he’s not a leader for you now, he won’t be for you or your future children either without growth. Don’t be afraid to let a good thing go for God’s best. Being unequally yoked with your partner should be scarier than being in a relationship that doesn’t glorify God. I understand the men in the past have hurt you, but you need emotional healing of your wounds and the faith that there are plenty of wonderful men out there that have a heart for God that want to treat their significant others with the utmost Christ-like love possible. Pray about it and try to put your own opinions aside and follow Christ with your whole heart so you can end up with the man God truly has in store for you. 2. God wants you to stay togetherStaying together means obvious change on both of your parts is imperative. You need more open communication. You shouldn’t be asking an online forum of people for our opinions on this matter, you should be talking to your boyfriend about what you need from him in this relationship, and Lord willing, marriage, but since you asked, here’s my take on it. If you truly think he is God’s best for you, bring out the Christ follower in him. If he know’s who God is but doesn’t follow him, inspire him want to be more the man of God than he’s ever been. Do that by challenging him in his faith. Start small with little things like starting a bible study that you do on your own and talk about every day later. Don’t be overbearing about it, but give him the opportunity to really show you how much of a Godly man and leader he can be by needing him spiritually. Pray together, go to church together, go to bible study together, praise and worship God together, serve together. Focus on building a relationship with God as a couple. However, don’t let that be your only source of holiness. You both need separate relationships with God because you are both individuals. You should have your own quiet times and if he doesn’t, inspire him to start. Be weary not to be his crutch, but a reminder that he needs to step up and be a Godly man. If he is up for the challenge and sees that the changes are worth more than losing you, you’ve got yourself a keeper.These are the outcome of any relationship. Relationships either end broken up (or divorce unfortunately) or end in marriage . Either way, pray about all these things. Make sure you’re in tune with God on all of this. Seek first the kingdom of God. In the end, God’s will will ultimately be fulfilled. Have faith either way that God has amazing plans for you and your boyfriend regardless of your outcome as a couple. Best wishes and God bless.-Jeremy